Archive for: ‘September 2010’

WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY?

09/25/2010 Posted by mindsinger

We’ve all heard the expression, “Happiness is a warm puppy”.  But what is your definition?  What makes you happy?  What is it that lights up your eyes, lifts up your heart and makes your day sparkle?  It might be the gurgling laugh of a baby or her uplifted arms waiting to be hugged.  It might be the sight of a beautiful rose with just the right amount of dew drops reflecting the morning sunlight.  Perhaps it’s an unexpected hug and kiss from your spouse hurrying out the door to work.

Perhaps… The list is endless for “perhaps” or “if”.  But what well of happiness is touched by these things?  Do you know someone who is always happy?  Do you know someone who is dour and gloomy no matter what the occasion and can throw a wet blanket over any celebration? That laughing baby can bring delight to one heart while another may only see responsibility and “Oh, nuts! The baby’s awake already!”  Or the rose that is beautiful may be over looked and only the weed growing beside it noticed.

So, if the same stimulus can bring opposite reactions, then the reasons must go deeper.

Before we see the rose or hear the baby or love our spouse our heart is prepared for its response.  It is our expectations about life that determine our response to it.  Sometimes it seems life has thrown us too many curve balls and pulled the rug out from under our dreams once too often.  So we begin to expect the worst, and quit hoping to be surprised by the best.

But there are those with whom we come in contact that belie that explanation.  We see them experience pain and grief and loss without losing their sense of joy.  Oh, they grieve, as we all do, but they are ready to enjoy us and see daily blessings as the gifts they are.  What is the difference?

The difference lies in the basic trust that God is working all things for good to those who belong to Him.  If we know that ultimately the good will prevail and that God will use even our failures to enrich our lives, we can put our losses in His hands and turn again to the world and to one another.  In that context we are free to see the good and the beautiful and enjoy them fully; but also to see that which needs our efforts to maintain or mend.

Happiness based on the world’s standards will last only as long as life goes according to our plans.  Happiness based on the abiding joy of being a child of God will keep returning to fill our hearts and senses with the wonder of creation and the joy of fellowship.

Thanks again

09/24/2010 Posted by mindsinger

Once again I must thank those of you who leave comments.  They are a great encouragement.  To those of you who ask where I get my ideas; I have been writing for over 40 years and, thankfully, kept copies of most of it.  Poetry journals plus two lyric journals became a great source of material.  Some diary journaling and a lot of  personal letters also added to the pile.  I’ve also written newspaper columns for many years; currently I write a general interest column and a column  for children  for a weekly paper.

For me it is not hard to write.  I say that humbly, for it is a gift from God and I thank Him for it.  My biggest obstacle is marketing my writing for I am not a business person.  Most creators are not.  It is hard for us to sell ourselves or our words.  I’ve given up the dream of great wealth derived from my books, columns, articles, etc.  Having this place to post them and knowing you all enjoy them has become a new definition for success.

As for the look of my webpage, I cannot take a lot of credit for that.  I have a wonderful nephew who is a professional designer of webpages and has become my mentor here.  I design some of the banners and do the posting, but Les (J.Leslie Booth) gets me out of messes I make when trying to get fancy.

Again, thank each of you for taking the time to write and for your encouragement.

Donna Swanson/Mindsinger

THE LITTLE GIRLS’ ROOM

09/23/2010 Posted by mindsinger

Once a week I brought my guitar to the nursing home and sang for those residents who were unable to come to the dining room for programs or for Church on Sundays.  I’d listened as aphasic stroke patients who had not spoken for months or years, joined me as I sang “The Old Rugged Cross” or “In The Garden”.  I had seen bird-like Minnie, ninety-nine years of age, raise her hands over her head while tears streamed down her face as I sang “I Trust in God”. A song I thought new, but found she and her husband had sung as they rode from Ohio to Illinois, in a covered wagon to be missionaries when she was fourteen. Each room I entered was a page of history and their stories enriched my life.

As we turned down another corridor, Deanna, in her big square walker jostled ahead of us and disappeared into a door at the end of the hall.  “Deanna lives in the Little Girls’ Room and she’s excited about your visiting her and her room mates.” Deanna, bound by Cerebral Palsy, always met me at the door and asked for “Jesus Loves Me”.  I counted it a privilege to sing for her. Now, after two months I was to sing for the “Little Girls”.

Joy pushed open the door and motioned me in.  Deanna was beaming from beside a bed near the window. Women ranging in age from 40 to 60 occupied the other three beds.  One sat with arms tightly wrapped around knees drawn up to her chin.  She was silent, except for loud groans every few minutes.  Another had blue-gray eyes and skin like white marble. It was obvious she could not walk for her limbs were terribly misshapen.  She and the fourth ‘little girl’ rocked constantly as though working at their daily occupations.

Silently I asked God for the grace to sing here and that it be to His glory.  As I began singing “Jesus Loves Me”, I kept my eyes on Deanna, an island of familiarity in this strange room.  But, in my line of sight were the others.  Slowly, the rocking ceased, arms were loosened and four pair of eyes locked on my own.  I sang all the verses.  Then, I sang “The Old Rugged Cross”.  And still their attention never wavered.

As I always did, I said goodbye to each one, touching a hand or a shoulder, and left the room.  Joy commented that she had never seen them grow still and give their attention to anyone for so long, except when being fed.

As I drove home the ‘little girls’ rode with me.  I couldn’t get them out of my mind.  How I wanted to reach them, to give more than just a song.  Out of that first experience came a song that has been in used in programs and concerts for many years.  If you would like to hear it, just follow the url.

I never sang that song to the women in the Little Girls’ Room.  But it was an integral part of the programs I gave to volunteer groups for nursing homes, to Mother’s Day banquets and to rooms full of phschycologists, health care workers and professors.  I told the story of how music unlocks the soul and, for a few moments, lets it fly free. Of how much God loves them and watches over the ‘Little Girls’ in Neverland.