Posts Tagged: ‘life’

Rewards

03/13/2009 Posted by mindsinger

You can remember when quite well as long as your mind cooperates. At least you can remember the incident if not the names. That’s the game known as ‘What’s his name?  Oh, you remember. ______’s boy. No, not that one. Lived back of what’s his name’s store.”  This game continues either until the game players remember the dozen or so names it takes to get back to the original query, or they give up and drink their coffee.

But on our good days we remember good things.Like little Jared Jernagen running rampant through the Agape classroom some 20 or 25 years ago. His mom and dad would get there early, straighten the room and make coffee; and Jared would greet the early birds and entertain us until Mom or Dad would say, “OK, Jared, go to class now.” And with a rather glum expression on his face for having to leave such fascinating people, he would trudge down to Sunday School. Now, he’s trudging off again and I’m sure he will miss all the fascinating people he’s leaving behind.

I miss them, too, the Agape class. For many years we gathered every Sunday morning and just enjoyed one another while we studied and prayed. The class began as a study group in Susan Shryock’s living room as the ‘Second Cup Club’. Several of the young mothers – and a few old fogies – did not attend Church, but they gradually began to talk about wanting to try it. “But is there a class for us?”, was usually the excuse.

So, as the group was getting a bit large for Susan’s living room, we decided to ask for a classroom in the Church building where we could start a new Sunday School class. For the next several years I was privileged to observe first some husbands joining their wives, then staying for the Worship service. It was a joy to watch a newcomer to the class as he or she would sit quietly without entering the discussions and then as the Sundays rolled by, to see them bloom into lively debaters. Soon, they would be missing as they taught a class of little ones in other parts of the building.

I think the best reward of all was to see the young men serving Communion or giving a prayer, and even accepting the roll of Elder. There is no way to measure those rewards for teaching a class. Through laughter and tears and support for one another we bonded as a group and reached out into the community in many ways.

You are the light that gives light to

the world. A city that is built on a

hill cannot be hidden. And people

don’t hide a light under a bowl.

They put it on a lamp stand so the

light shines for all the people in the

house. In the same way, you should

be a light for other people. Live so

that they will see the good things you

do and will praise your Father in

heaven.   … John 5:14-16

We are not given the choice of being a light to the world.

John tells us in his gospel that we are the light. When we accept Christ and become part of the family of God, we are put on a lamp stand. We are the city on the hill. People will see us. Our light will shine. The only choice we have is the amount of Light we allow through the cracks in these earthen vessels….

The brilliance of that reflection, the penetrating power of Christ’s Spirit in our lives is His gift to us. As we allow our hearts to overflow with His goodness, mercy, and love; with the knowledge of who He is and what He is, that goodness and mercy and awesome reality somehow manifests itself to those around us. The love we receive from Him flows naturally into our world and into the lives of those with whom we come in contact.

From the introduction to Splinters of Light

So long, Jared, come back often!

A PARENT’S PERSPECTIVE

09/16/2008 Posted by mindsinger

Not always pious, not always preachy. Not always perfect. Not always stuffy; parents are mostly uncertain, unheard, underpaid and unrehearsed. They are blamed for bad teeth, acne, traumatizing their children, and not keeping up with the Joneses. They are expected to produce a perfect product on the first or second try with no previous experience and with such a variety of instruction booklets that Henry Ford would probably have come up with a Model A Rickshaw using comparable material.

What do parents feel? What are they really thinking when they look at their teenagers? Are they disapproving of you? Are they looking for some fault to pounce upon? Why do they criticize? Why do they seem to nag all they time? Well, here comes straight talk from one of the ‘othersiders’. In the midst of teenagers and grade-schoolers, I had the audacity of speaking for the majority of mothers. This inside look at your mother’s head might sound a bit sentimental at times, but I’ve a feeling you might like to hear a little more of that. Mainly because it’s rather hard for us mothers to say what we really feel to our cool young sons and daughters.

~*~

What do I see when I look at you? Well, I see part of me and part of your father. But I see more than that. I see a big part of my life. I see the baby who was a miracle of perfection. I see the struggle to be a person. I usually see you as a little younger than you are and I keep thinking I should somehow be able to protect you from the hurts and frustrations of the world. I see the real you peeking from behind the latest fads and fashions. I see your personality taking shape. When you and your brothers and sisters quarrel, I wonder if you will be close and loving when you are grown and have your own families. I look forward to the day when you begin bringing home young men with that starry-eyed look that says, “I think he loves ME!” Or when you, son, begin to mention rather often a pretty young lady.

And I look forward to the day when the house will ring with the laughter of families who have sprung from the love between your father and me. The grandchildren. The happy faces telling of the triumphs and dreams of young married people.

And then I begin to worry. Have I taught you enough? Have I planted the seeds of happiness and worth deeply enough in your mind that they will bear fruit and produce a beautiful person who will be a joy to him or herself and your future family? Have I given you the faith it will take to carry you through the hard times when life doesn’t seem worth living or when confusion threatens to overwhelm your best intentions? I wonder if I’ve held you enough as a baby and I wish there were some way to hold you now and give you some of my strength. I wish I could have had a little more patience, a little more wisdom, a little more time to be a mother.

And I try to compensate for some of my failings by last minute ‘touchups’. As though by calling attention to some little faults I can smooth off the rough edges and present the ‘finished masterpiece’ in all its beauty. Yet, even as I nag, I know that will not solve any long-range problems. My only defense is that of love and a concern for your happiness.

Your happiness. Such an illusive quality. And so misused and misinformed. What is happiness anyway? Is it instant gratification of our every whim? Is it a state of glorious euphoria? Is it wealth? Success? Partly perhaps, but real happiness is a harmony of life. Just as an out-of-tune musical instrument creates a discordant sound; so does a life that is out of harmony with itself and its Creator. Happiness is the by-product of a life lived in integrity and service. It is satisfaction with a job well done, an unexpected joy, a recognition of blessings.

This is what we wish for you, my child. A life lived so well that disappointment and even tragedy cannot overcome it. A life of love and laughter and community. Go in joy.